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 Prevent Cancer Cancer is a very deadly disease. Like a thief in the night, it came so sudden. But by changing our lifestyle to a healthy lifestyle, cancer risk can be reduced. The following steps are recommended to prevent cancer.
Eat plenty of vegetables, fruits, grains such as tofu and eat food that contains a lot of fiber. Consume green vegetables and fruits at least one or two times a day .
Avoid excessive weight gain or obesity. Check your weight once a week. Research shows that obesity can increase risk of cancer, particularly breast cancer, cervical, colon, stomach, kidney and gall bladder.
Reduce eating too much fried food and food which containing high protein and fat.
Don’t eat too much processed foods with high temperature or with certain processing that can cause prokarsinogen like marinated, smoked, baked, and roasted. The best way is steam.
Be careful with the use of artificial sweeteners, food coloring and preservatives are excessive. The best food is original fresh food.
Should not over-consume beverages containing alcohol and smoking.
Physical activity by exercising regularly accompanied by mental and spiritual health is an integral part in the prevention of cancer.
Dreams are the first step to success. But how to transform dream into real success? Success don’t suddenly fall from the sky. It’s impossible for us to achieve them just by counting on faith. It needs hard work, consistency and luck to become successful. Here are five basic conditions we need to satisfy to launch ourselves into a life or true success.
Define your goals. The quest of success always begins with a target. Goal setting is a focusing of the will to move in a certain direction. Begin with a clear conception of what you want. Rather than concentrating on objects to acquire and possess, focus on fulfilling your desires to do, to produce, to contribute-goal setting that yields the true sense of satisfaction we all need.
Seek out those who know more than you. Whatever your goals, plan to network with those who know more than you. Model your effort on theirs, adjusting and improving as you go.
Pursue your vision with stubborn consistency. The biggest different between people who succeed and those who don’t is not usually talent but persistence. Many brilliant people give up. But highly successful people don’t quit. It’s often been said that they are just individuals who got up one more time than they fell down.
Make an emotional commitment. Without a deep commitment, it is difficult to pursue a dream. Great success requires risk whether financial, social or physical. We need to be willing to try things we’ve never tried before. Maybe even things nobody else has ever tried before. We can’t play it safe if we want to win in life.
Review and renew your goals. After a goal is reached, many people ease up. Often these are people who did not understand the importance of renewal. So set new goals.
If life is leaving you out in the cold, do something about it! Turn up the heat. Strive. It’s worth it.
 Rules of Positive Parenting No-one ever said raising a child was an exact science. But according to the experts, here’s what to do to sharpen your skills.
Know your child. We parents fall short when we try to make our children more intelligent, assertive, graceful or accomplished than they are naturally disposed to be. We fail them just as much when we ignore or deny their real talents and temperament.
Know yourself. Examine your motives in wanting more from your child. Parents may have their own shame or unmet needs that they project onto their children.
Educate yourself. Talk to other parents, teachers, and read child-development books to learn what you can reasonably expect from your child at each stage of his life.
Empathize. Take time to see yourself through your child’s eyes.
Make adjustments. No-one responds well to someone who is accusatory or judgmental. If you find yourself harping on what your child can’t do, refocus on her strengths. Once you change your attitude, you may find that she changes too.
Collaborate. Create a partnership with your child in which he can participate in setting appropriate goals and solving problems.
Read how your child feels. Your child’s behavior – anger, fidgeting, procrastination – says a lot about whether she is being asked to do more than she can manage.
Explore possibilities. A good way to encourage is to expose your children to a variety of environments, including sports, the arts, nature and science. Let your child find out what she enjoys.
Keep your eye on the end goal. A parent’s main objective should be to raise a child who loves well, works well and takes pleasure in life. You don’t want to stifle curiosity, initiative and confidence.
Avoid comparisons. A style of parenting that works for one child may backfire for his sibling. Every child has his own personality.
 Understanding Your Kids’ Limit Most parents make well-meant efforts to set high goals to motivate and stimulate their children’s learning and good behavior. But many don’t understand their own child’s limitations or strength. In fact, many potentialities and limitations – in intelligence, temperament and mental health – are laid down prior to birth.
We may want our child to do better than we did at the same age, but if it’s not in the cards, or genes, no amount of coaching or coaxing will move them much beyond their natural gifts. In fact, the pressure may have the opposite effect.
Trouble arises when we ignore the signs that a child isn’t ready or able to live up to our expectations. If a child is not really good at what his parents are pushing him to do, that can do irreparable damage. This is the antithesis of developing self esteem. Repeated failures may cause some children to set the bar too low for themselves, withdrawing from new experiences and missing out on opportunities to guarantee they won’t fail again.
When a child doesn’t meet expectations, the parent may feel resentment, which shows up as anger or frustration. Children may see their parents’ disappointment as rejection, and these feelings can lead to hostility, emotional withdrawal, a sense of incompetence and conduct problem or delinquency.
The bottom line is that we must accept our children for who they are and allow them to become what they will be. Don’t misinterpret acceptance as permissiveness. Letting children do what they want does no-one any good; homework must be done, family rules respected and consideration shown. It comes down to a delicate balance of control and acceptance.
Often kids will give us the clues we need to help them set and achieve realistic goals. The benefits of taking a realistic view of your child may surprise you. When parents are accepting, loving and supportive, children are often motivated to exceed your expectations.
 Can Marriage Survive an Affair? (2) After knowing what you shouldn’t do, these following tips will help you to save your marriage.
Get the privacy you need to talk about what happened. Don’t discuss the affair in front of children or family. Don’t do it at restaurant either. Many couples end up making scene at restaurant. Wherever you talk, stop if the discussion gets out of hand. Wait until you’re both calm.
As your scars heal, learn from the affair. Ask your spouse questions like: ‘What made you so vulnerable?’ and ‘what did you learn about yourself that you want to bring back to our relationship?’ The answers will bring you closer.
For many couples, a return to a religion helps reunite them. Since most couples make their marriage vows within religious context, a return to church or synagogue may help renew that commitment.
Renew your relationship. Try to rekindle what made you fall in love with each other. Talk about the early days together when your relationship was new and special.
 Can Marriage Survive an Affair? (1) Affairs occur even in happy marriages, often in the wake of a personal crisis. Childbirth, the death of a parent or the realization of middle age can also lead husbands and wives into affairs. In some cases, however, divorce could have been avoided. Many couples in the heat of infidelity, make mistakes that prevent them from putting the relationship back together. Recognizing these common traps may help them save the marriage:
Doing something rash. Hurts and humiliated, betrayed partners feel justified in taking immediate action. But certain actions can’t be undone. If you want to save your marriage, your best move is to wait for your head to clear.
Fighting fire with fire. Other betrayed partners establish a position of moral superiority. They use the affair as a weapon for self justification. Unfortunately, this attitude makes it impossible to repair your relationship and move on.
Expecting things to be the same. When an infidelity is discovered, your basic assumptions about marriage are shattered. If you had been clinging to idealized, romantic notions of each other, you now must replace those ideas with a more sophisticated reality and accept each other’s flaws and strengths.
Still keeping secrets. If your betrayal is revealed, and your spouse presses you for details, be honest. But also be sensitive to his or her feelings.
Rejecting reality. Idealized, romantic affairs are based on illusion rather than reality, and illusion is difficult to sustain. True intimacy is based on genuine mutual understanding and the ability to acknowledge and accept each other’s flaw and foibles.
Refusing to admit you were wrong. Pointing the finger at your partner may help alleviate your own guilt, but it will wreak even more havoc on your marriage.
 Don’t Let a Crisis Crash Your Career Sometimes, people must carry on a job while their personal lives are in turmoil. Whatever the cause – illness, a death in the family, divorce, losing a home in a fire – the emotional and practical pressures of a life crisis don’t disappear during the work day. So, when trouble strikes, how do you maintain the delicate balance between business and home?
- Disclose information about your situation on a need-to-know basis
Your immediate superior and closest associates should hear the news first. Frank disclosure of serious personal problem is almost always the best policy.
- Work out a strategy to answer questions and concerns
Co-workers are going to notice when you are under unusual stress. If you’re going through a long-term crisis, you need to be prepared with an explanation if colleagues inquire.
- Accept help from co-workers when it is offered
You’re going to need support from your co-workers, so when it is offered don’t let your pride get in the way of accepting it.
- It’s okay to lose yourself in work
People assume it’s impossible to concentrate on the job when something is very wrong in their lives. But work focuses energy on something a person can do and do well. It requires a timeout from personal stress.
- Find emotional support outside the workplace
Although work can be haven for people under stress, it’s a mistake to depend on co-workers for emotional support. When the emotions are overwhelming, turn to people you love or professional counseling rather than colleagues. You have to make a conscious effort not to take out your fear and anger on co-workers.
- When the crisis is over, follow through
People often neglect to express gratitude for the support or assistance they have been given because they want to put their bad experience behind them. But, everyone likes to be thanked. If you can’t get the words out, or you don’t feel comfortable writing a note, actions can convey your appreciation.
 Stop Nagging ! Nagging is quick and easy, so people tend to fool themselves into thinking it makes a difference, but it doesn’t. Husbands nag just as much as wives, but in different ways. Wives nag about things they want their husband to do, husbands tend to be after-the-fact naggers ex:” you left my car a mess etc”. People nag whenever their standards are higher in certain areas than others. Nagging is a veiled way of criticizing. Here are suggestions for making your home a no-nagging zone.
Be Direct. Men have difficulty hearing what a woman wants if she doesn’t make a clear request. So explain why you’re upset, what you want him to do and when. Also be direct with your kids.
Ban Blaming. When an issue concerns the entire family the way to avoid collective blaming is to gather everyone together, identity the behavior that triggers nagging and find a way to deal with it.
Stay Focused. Nagging leads to a pattern in the relationship that creates a never ending negative cycle. It shifts attention from the original offense and becomes the issue. Keep focus on the issue and get a dialogue going rather than continuing to alternate monologues.
Negotiate. The nagger assumes what he or she wants is going to happen immediately, the one nagged is thinking about getting to it in a week or so. They have to talk about realistic expectations.
Realign Priorities. The things we nag our families about are our priorities, not theirs. To achieve what we want, we have to motivate people to share our concerns, and nagging is a very poor motivator. Spell out consequences in advance and instead of using threatening or annoyed tone, say “please” and “thank you” and avoid negative words such as “don’t’ and “ shouldn’t”.
Let It Go. It’s hard to admit that there are a lot of things about the people we love that we can’t control and shouldn’t try to. What we should do is shift focus from what’s wrong in our homes to what’s right. When you express what you like about people’s behavior, they’ll act that way more often.
 Symptoms of Stroke (2) If you or someone you know experiences any of those symptoms in the previous article, what should you do?
First, take the symptoms seriously, even if they seem trivial or the episode ends quickly. Many times there were false alarms, but if you could not explain the cause of the symptoms you should see a specialist.
Second, move fast, don’t wait, see a doctor right away. It is difficult to tell if a TIA is a warning signal of a stroke. Those who have a TIA should receive prompt medical attention. If they do not, there is a good chance they will have a real stroke.
Third, describe your symptoms carefully. Did you see blurred or double images? Could you speak clearly but not understand? The more accurate the patient is, the easier it is for doctors to make a correct diagnosis and offer correct therapy.
If you suffer a TIA, be sure to follow your doctor’s recommendations to prevent a major stroke. Don’t try to convince yourself, “I’m fine”. The result could be even worst than you think.
see also Symtoms of Stroke (1)
 Symptoms of Stroke Years ago, stroke was considered virtually untreatable, either immediately or later. But during the past decades, that gloomy outlook has been revised dramatically. With new drugs, dramatic surgery and diagnostic technology, most strokes are treatable and subsequent attacks preventable if action is taken soon enough.
Many brief transient ischemic attacks (TIA) or “mini stroke” are dismissed because symptoms are not dramatic or well known. Certain people should be particularly alert to stroke’s subtle warnings. Person with hypertension, smokers, diabetics, who are overweight, don’t exercise or have elevated blood cholesterol.
The odds of defeating stroke are greatly enhanced when people are aware of the symptoms. Here are warning signs you should not ignore:
Pins and needles. The loss of sensation may be noticed first in one hand or foot, then the arm, leg, face or entire side of the body. Or it may be confined to a vague tingling in a few fingers.
Losing your grip. Often a TIA announces itself when an object unexpectedly falls from a person’s hand.
An unruly tongue. Some people temporarily can’t talk, some make nonsense sounds, some don’t understand what’s being said to them.
A descending curtain. In a stroke or TIA, vision suddenly turns dark, dim or gray, as though someone had set up a screen in front of you. Usually only one eye is temporarily blinded, while the other is perfectly normal.
Rubber legs. An unsteady gait or lurching to one side usually indicates a clot affecting the balance centers in the brain stem. The gait disturbance is often preceded by vertigo.
The worst headache ever. Sudden excruciating headache is the most prominent indication of a hemorrhagic stroke. The pain is usually ribconstant rather than pulsating and is felt across the head, rather than being localized in the forehead.
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